The 3 Things That Vastly Improved My Game

“20s are for learning; 30s are for earning.”

Game is an investment for the long haul. Big, life-changing improvements take years — not days, weeks or even months — with tiny incremental adjustments that happen continuously as a result of an approach here, a number there and a rejection or a lucky bang there.

Over the years I’ve picked up a lot of small and specific techniques, but it was the following big three that really took my game to new leaps and bounds:

1. Age

I was a late bloomer and at 33 I’m finally finding my footing. My twenties were a time of confusion, learning and self-discovery, but something clicked as soon as I entered my thirties. I can’t put my finger on anything specific; most likely it was a culmination of the experience in the previous decade.

A guy I met in Brazil told me that “20s are for learning; 30s are for earning.” I wouldn’t say I’m seriously “earning” just yet but I’m definitely cashing out some of the capital that I built in my twenties. Even if I had a time machine that allowed me to become 25 again, I’d never do it if it meant losing all that hard-earned wisdom.

Women naturally mature quicker than men, which is why it’s very common for a man to be many years – even decades – older than women he’s banging. Even girls that have boyfriends are not immune: all I have to do is to switch the conversation to how “boys can be so immature” and watch her resistance slowly unravel only to be quickly seduced by my dark charms. Most of the time I’m simply amazed at how much less work I have to do than in my twenties – it’s like shooting fish in a barrel.

So if you’re a young rookie trying to leave his mark (and his sperm) on this world, relax and take a deep breath because things get much, much easier as you get into your 30s and beyond.

2. Travel

I tell people I started traveling out of sheer curiosity but it was the allure of the Latin pussy across California’s southern border that was sucking me in like a large magnet. Mexico introduced me to flirtatious and feminine women who loved to be courted and seduced, but it was Brazil that gave me this always-on killer mentality that was like a vaccine for my most chronic decease: always getting “friend-zoned” by a chick I wanted to bang. The vaccine seemed to work because that hasn’t happened since.

I’m now in Europe where things are easy and straightforward. Getting laid still takes work but trying to seduce European women after Latinas and Brazilians (who grew up getting hit on by guys with drum-tight game) is like bringing a bazooka to a knife fight – most of them have no chance.

Travel opens your eyes to new places, people, and most importantly all the new ideas that come from interacting with the former two. You also learn game that you wouldn’t otherwise ever learn, which you can later adjust and use in other situations.

If your “travel” solely consists of round trips taken to all-inclusive resorts in Cancun, you’re greatly missing out. The downside is that thanks to the Internet, (mis)information is traveling faster than ever, and many places that were once a godsend for a single men are quickly becoming Americanized. Yet another reason why you should’ve gotten on that plane yesterday and not do it in a year or ten from now.

3. Community

A guy today has a large community of like-minded peers at his disposal. There’re countless blogs, sites and forums that are designed to help a man in all aspects of seduction from passing a woman’s shit tests to ideas on slaying foreign women in what’s collectively known as the manosphere. Read, learn and share with others who are just starting out in the game or have been in the trenches for years.

Just one caveat: one man’s gold is another man’s garbage, so if something works for someone, don’t simply imitate it — integrate it into your unique game. For example, I know many guys live by direct game but most of my game is indirect which suits my personality better.

So even if your current existence is limited to mindless work for the man from a bland cubicle in Anytown, USA, and you can’t yet break free from the clutches of capitalism, you no longer have any excuse not to train your game “muscles” for when opportunity to break free will inevitably come knocking.

Most guys who are just getting into game are focusing their energies on the trivial things: how to pass a specific shit test, reply to a girl’s text, or know the perfect approach for that cute waitress in a high-end lounge. This is akin to missing the forest for the trees.

The right mindset is to realize that game is a long-term investment, don’t be discouraged by minor setbacks, and enjoy the ride; for years from now you’ll too, like me, will look yourself in the mirror and barely recognize the improved and potent version of your old self staring back at you.

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