Brazilian Dating Guide For Men

By Maverick · July 30, 2010

Brazilian Women Dating Guide For Men

Wanna go out?

It’s generally easy for a Western male to date in lower income countries, especially in Latin America.  Being a Westerner automatically associates you with money, and a chance for the girl to obtain a visa back to the richer country.  It also draws in girls who might be tired of the macho-infested culture and are eager for a change.  This is certainly true all over Latin America.

Except Brazil.

After spending more than a year in Rio, I thought I’d give some pointers to guys that are interested in going to Brazil and dating Brazilian women.

(Disclaimer: My experience is based on my stay in Rio de Janeiro — so if you’re staying elsewhere, your mileage may vary)

  1. The Rule
    The universal rule is that Brazilian girls usually fall into two camps,  who exclusively date Brazilian guys and those that have dated and are open to dating foreigners (gringos).  This alone sets Brazil apart from the rest of Latin America.  Signs that a girl is open to dating a gringo, she has lived/travel abroad, she speaks great English, she had/has gringo friends, she hangs out in places where gringos go, etc.
  2. Speak Portuguese.
    This seems obvious, but it’s not.  If you only speak English, you will most likely meet girls who speak English and have travelled/lived in US (or Europe) and hang out around gringos (see #1 above).  On the other hand, if you speak Portuguese, you will meet all Brazilian girls, and it’ll be harder to filter which ones are open for dating a gringo.  Knowing Portuguese is obviously a plus, but not as important as it seems at first.
  3. Gringo Factor
    Unfortunately male gringos in Brazil have a negative reputation as prostitute seekers and exploiters of Brazil’s natural resources (i.e., women).  This creates a double standard.  The girls are especially sensitive to such stereotypes, and as a result they will take any negative “asshole-type” behavior very personally.  Even a light tease that’s culturally acceptable anywhere else can result in backlash, while the same behavior from a Brazilian guy can be totally acceptable.  This means in the initial encounter, refrain from any questionable teasing and keep things very friendly.
  4. Venue is important.
    If you go places that charge $50 cover, then you would expect to meet girls who are interested in meeting well-off guys.  However, if you go to street parties, and cheaper places, chances are the girls will be more down to earth.  In Rio, Ipanema and Leblon have the most beautiful, but richer girls, while Lapa and Botafogo have more down to earth variety.
  5. Looks are important.
    Rio is a beautiful city situated with mountainous landscapes and blessed with a gorgeous beach.  Girls are beautiful as well, always dressed to the nines, refusing to leave the house without without high heels.  They take care of themselves, and expect the same from guys.  So remember to GTL (Gym, Tan, Laundry) before you go to Rio.

    Brazilian Women Dating Guide For Men

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  6. Brazilian girls are direct
    Unlike in US or Europe, girls here play much less games.  When approaching a girl, the girl will know very quickly if you’re her type or not.  If things are not moving forward within the first 10-15 minutes, it won’t go anywhere.  Just politely eject and keep going.
  7. Be aggressive
    If on the other hand, things are progressing nicely, slowly go for a kiss after fifteen or twenty minutes of conversation.  A kiss doesn’t signify intimacy in Brazil, but kissing quickly is normal and is part of the mating ritual.
  8. Things move fast.
    After you get the number, it’s OK to call the next day and schedule a date for the following or same evening. You do not need to wait 2-4 days like in US.
  9. Keep it simple.
    I know in the West, dinner and movie is the norm.  In Brazil, keep dates simple.  Meet her at the beach, go for a drink at Devassa Bar in Ipanema.  Go to a Hippie Fair in Ipanema on Sunday afternoons, or just grab a coconut juice on the beach.  It doesn’t need to be expensive or complicated.  The cheaper the better.
  10. Have fun.
    Many guys get wrapped up in trying to attract the girl by impressing her.  This wouldn’t work in Brazil because above all Brazilian culture is extremely chill, and people value a relaxed atmosphere over a serious or deep conversation.  So don’t try too hard and just have a good time.

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  • http://rio4men.wordpress.com Giovanni Rio

    Finally a nice, down to earth & so correct post about carioca’s :))) . You’ll see that after spending time here the Leblon/Ipanema girls will be approachable as you’ll mingle in better & are able to get rid of the gringo status. I’m living here for about the same time as you, love every single day of it, but had to adapt my approach to women & thoughts I had about Brazilian women before coming over here. Keep up the good writing/work :)

    • mavtraveler

      Appreciate the nice words, and the feedback!

      I lived in Rio for a few years, and it’s an awesome place with it’s own pros/cons. Having been out of Brazil (which I consider its own continent) for a while now, I now have some new realizations which probably deserve a post of its own.

    • http://br.lothariosystem.com/video Samuel

      http://br.lothariosystem.com/video . This will teach you all you need to know. A bit unethical but it works good :)

  • http://www.bluegreenresortsblog.com Bluegreen Kirk

    Nice tips and many have reasons to react to gringos the way they do. I agree that speaking Portuguese can be more harmful than helpful. I have plans to visit Ipanema later this year.

  • Amin

    you are so funny,dude.i wanna go there for vacation for 15 days so this process will take long.is there any shortcut for me to hang around?thx…..

  • Igoralessander 2456

    eu sou brasileiro e voces estam entrando no caminho certo.mas acho que falta um pouco!

    • http://www.mavericktraveler.com Maverick Traveler

      Obrigado parceiro.

  • Aline

    Hahahah I liked 5 last part..boa!

  • Alexa

    Lol, interesting… I think you got it right in most parts. Being a Brazilian girl who has dated a few foreigners (specially Americans) and who knows US culture very well, I can give you a female perspective of the tips you gave here. I agree with everything you said except for the when you mention guys should go for a kiss after 15-20 min of conversation, coming from a “gringo” that attitude would look odd, we know that you guys wouldn’t do that with american girls, why would you think you can do it here? Got it? That can ruin everything. Wait for the right moment to kiss the girl. That might take the whole night/afternoon / whaterever… but definitely kiss her before the night ends ;)

    • http://profile.yahoo.com/JWKYDOSDGIRVIWGKAXW7BZ6SXE vikas

      i’ll wait for alexa for the whole afternoon…whole night…whole week and month…whole year…….and my whole life..

    • http://www.mavericktraveler.com Maverick Traveler

      I’ve seen gringos do it within 15-20 mins of talking to a woman. However, there comes a point where the woman is waiting to be kissed. Takes a while of being in Brazil to “feel” that moment though :)

  • http://www.facebook.com/dj4money Anthony Thomas

    Time is not an issue for me. Decent tips but the Tan part, that does not apply to people of color nor does dressing properly. I am deciding between Brazil/Argentina or Central/Eastern/Northern Europe for LTR Only. This was helpful but only just, decent blog though.

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  • http://www.romanticobrazil.com Jerry Fisher

    I read that you were most of your time in Rio. I was living up in the North East of Brazil for a year, in Recife, and found it a lot less expensive than Rio. Also it seemed much easier for Brazil dating. The main reason for this is that I found the beaches at Rio were mainly filled with tourists, as opposed to the beaches in the North East Brazil which were full of local Brazil Girls, and not many tourists from Europe.
    I actually arranged my visit through the RomanticoBrazil website, although I did have a lady to stay with that I met on-line. I would say that the North East is definately the best area of Brazil for Brazilian dating.

    • steve

      what website would you recommend to meet a Brazilian girl online and it not be some rip off just to get $50 bucks w/o real girls being on there.. which one did you use?

      • michi

        In US u can find lots of brazilian girls at “plenty of fish” or “ok cupid”. They are 99% living in US for long or short time. All my brazilian girl friends are there.

    • Ivi

      For sure.
      I’m from Salvador! I can tell.. :D

  • Marcelo

    Hi all, my name is Marcelo, im from Chile, i’m the kind of guy who has not too much sexual, dating or hanging-out experience with girls, im 21 now, i met a girl from Brazil in internet, and what the article says is true, but except for the fact that i cant do anything from the webcam haha. Well, im a bit worried about the posibilities to date girls around 18 – 25, because i’ll be around 23 when i get money for travel and meet this beautiful country and the expected friendly people. Also there is a fact that i look older than my real age (27 sometimes), so that’s why i ask about that range age of brazilian girls (18 – 25). Another thing is that Chilean girls are a more cold, they dont hang.out too much, chilean girls just kiss once or fell in love, and they are a bit more hypocrites in relationships. Well, i’ll like to know the age of you guys, overall of the writer of this article, to know how to get a very nice experience even if a to old to date this kind of girls. Thank you very much, and sorry for my english, i’m still trying to improve it (not google translator used). See ya!

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  • Flavio Cavalcanti

    If you’re a normal foreigner looking for a decent girl just try to be honestly yourself. In general a Brazilian man suits better a Brazilian girl mainly because of the natural mutual understanding, however the human being factor should be the most important asset. A man can sense the responsiveness of a woman, no matter where.

  • João

    Great advice. I’ve been living in Rio for a while and your advice is spot on.

  • Pat

    Easier said than done :)

  • http://www.romanticobrazil.com Jerry Fisher

    Marcelo…reading your post, I don’t think the ‘age thing’ that you mention is going to be a problem for you. It sounds like you will be at a perfect age for Dating by the time that you go. It you want to look at some of the Recife girls, that I mentioned above, before you go, go here, like I did, to http://www.romanticobrazil.com
    I am about ‘double your age’… but usually, you will find, that Brazil woman (un-like European ones) don’t mind men that are quite a bit older..as long as they can support themselves…i.e…Have some money and a job !

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  • http://www.amobrazilian.com Denise

    ell, as a Brazilian (carioca) lady, I would like to say about being aggressive and move fast will be only welcome if the guy are very confident that we really liked him and we had strong physical attraction because I if we are not ready yet, that quick move can spoil the whole date. Brazilian like long talks..long intelligent conversation before any touch. Unless is a soft touch :) If you guys love the Brazilian ladies and the culture, please check my website out, http://www.amobrazilian.com. Please read the Terms of use before you get your free trial with no commitment with the web..but with the girls! they are all waiting for a serious single gentlemen who knows how to treat a woman like a lady, how should always be :) Good luck!
    Denise.

  • Luisa

    This seems ridiculous…!! I’m from Rio and like, 10% of that is true. Sure, we are chill but not all girlies over here are like that. There are A LOT of weirdos and less popular (or whatevs) people. Idek, lol

  • dj

    Yeah, kisses doesn’t mean anything there!
    Dentists even tests their patients’ saliva with a wet kiss before anything else!

    • http://mundodamarina.com/ Marina Faeda

      “A kiss doesn’t signify intimacy in Brazil, but kissing quickly is normal and is part of the mating ritual.”

      That was ridiculous to read, thus my bf’s comment above mine. (Yeah, kisses doesn’t mean anything there!
      Dentists even tests their patients’ saliva with a wet kiss before anything else!)

      I’m a brazilian woman, and if I’m talking to a guy and he simple decides to kiss me after no matter what time without telling me, I would slap him. And not just because I have a boyfriend!

      It’s easy to mistake interest, because, I admit, brazilians are more “open” to talk and touch while talking, unlike other people around the world, but that doesn’t mean we expect kisses or even that kisses don’t mean intimacy. They may not mean a compromise, but intimacy is another thing entirely!

      I would be more carefull if I were you! I was offended by that, and am sure other women would be too!

      • http://burma-hotels.co.uk Don Juan

        You sound like someone who would be offended by a lot of things. Girls don’t want a guy to ask before he kisses them, no girl is turned on by that. Also if you are slapping guys for trying to kiss you then you clearly have attitude problems.

  • souza

    ” slowly go for a kiss after fifteen or twenty minutes of conversation. ” lie this -.-” …..
    nt believe this… this post is fake …tsc tsc

  • Laura

    Maverick, dearest, you just forgot to say that these girls you’ve just mentioned are only available in Copacabana at night, and they do charge you! Not to mention that some of them are not even girls (in case you hadn’t noticed when you kissed them in the first 15min.)!!!

    Regular Brazilian girls NEVER fall for sexist assholes like yourself and your followers.

    Cheers mate!

  • brazil is a sesspool

    You failed to tell men that cohabiting in Brazil with a women that a man is held accountable to alimony should the two part.

    You also failed to mention that all the stereotypes about Brazil women being whores of all economic levels are true.

    If you don’t have the ability to get with an American woman than develop yourself. Brazilian women have been taught that their primary assest is ass or beauty of some sort. They expect that American men are rich, which you typically are as most of these people are extremely poor and ignorant.