From the monthly archives:

May 2012

Revisiting The Soulless, Uninspiring and Robotic Women

I received a ton of great comments on my recent post personifying the typical American woman.  Not surprisingly, few girls decided to contribute by adding their valuable perspectives as well.

Of them, “Eurogirl” did an excellent job of validating my post in one long run on sentence:

And, by the way: I speak four languages, I’m well read, well travelled, have exquisite interests such as philosophy, art, medieval music, dark ambient clubs, I love watching sports, going to museums, concerts, markets, etc.

[more validation clipped]

Roosh’s comment was right on the money, but in case someone misunderstood, let me explain. 

Since I feel a bit generous today, I will let Eurogirl and other hapless girls like her in on a little secret.  What Eurogirl doesn’t understand is that everything that she has allegedly accomplished above means absolutely nothing to the average male.

Absolutely, undoubtedly, unconditionally, unquestionably, unambiguously nothing.

Nothing.

The dirty little secret is that men don’t care whether you have a PhD, a Masters, or a Bachelors. 

Men don’t care whether you like medieval or classical music. 

Men don’t care whether you like museums or watching paint dry.

Men don’t care whether you speak 50 languages, or have been to Mars.

Yeah, I know the media, magazines, and “relationship experts” say otherwise.

When I meet a girl that can’t stop talking about her work, my eyes automatically start scanning for the nearest exit. 

What men want is a woman — a real woman.  A woman who oozes femininity.  A classy, elegant woman that supports her man on the street and rocks his world between the sheets. A confident woman that knows how to flirt, how to cock (or open to learning), and how to please a man.

(For Mad Men (great show, btw) fans: think Don Draper’s new French wife, and not that annoying and unattractive man-wannabe copywriter, Peggy)

In return, she will get a real man who will know how to please her.

You know why you never see beautiful, feminine girls of the world validating themselves to blog posts?  Because they’re all being fucked their brains out by real, confident men.

PS: Regarding the Ukraine comment.  I’m not so sure I’d be making that comment being from the country you’re.

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Genuine Asshole wrote:

Was in New York Last summer.
-Met a girl who was a DJ, Who invited me to a bunch of wild parties. Took me around New York, pointing out where many celebrities live, told me about the underground music scene
-Met a girl who was studying Art Major, who took me to a bunch of museums who she knew all surprisingly well. And a couple of art gallery opening ( open bar FTW)
- Met a girl who worked as a volunteer around the world in poor nations as both a teacher and a nurse. Introduced me to her friends, had a massive roof party for 4th of july.

    …

You just have to decide what you are looking for … The rest wear converse shoes and
flip flops.

So American girls do other things other than going to the movies? Who knew.  In all seriousness, I’m glad you found a girl to show you around NYC.

Now, you asked me to decide what I’m looking for.

Allow me to tell you what I’m looking for:

I’m looking for a girl that doesn’t immediately accuse a man of following some “X day rule” after he calls to setup a future date.

I’m looking for a girl who doesn’t return a sarcastic comment every time she is caught off-balance with my non-scripted flirting and doesn’t have a scripted answer to my question or comment.

I’m looking for a girl who’s confident enough to flirt with a man without needing to be drunk, or without suddenly getting uncomfortable when a man flirts with her in a way she’s never experienced in real life or seen on Jersey Shore.

I’m looking for a girl with emotional intelligence that can intuitively judge a man and not turn the date into a job interview if the man doesn’t spill his life story within the first date or two.

I’m looking for a girl who makes the interaction fun, not some chess match where I have to carefully plan what I say and how I act.

Those qualities simply don’t exist within the American female species.

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I received an email from a fellow Eastern European New Yorker who provided this insight:

Hey Maverick,
That was a cruel and funny post.  The girl you went out with sounds like a typical Italian/Russian-American princess.  I completely empathize with your situation, as I deal with girls like this ALL the time. 
Now what you should’ve done is just played her game, because these girls are so damn easy!  Answer her stupid questions, listen to her stupid stories, tease her a bit more than usual.  Just stick to basic New York game and you could’ve been fucking her in no time.

That’s a great point, and I personally know many guys that clean up with girls like her.  The problem is that once you venture outside America, and start meeting and dating beautiful, sexy and confident women from countries like Mexico, Colombia, Brazil, Romania and Ukraine, your standards and expectations radically change.

Sadly, American girls begin to pale in comparison in all categories except maybe fast, albeit sloppy and drunk, sex.  But even that is rapidly losing its appeal when you can get a whole package in the girl of your dreams abroad.

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How To Go From A Number To A Date Without Being Desperate

There’s a big difference between being persistent and being desperate.  There are times that even persistence is not necessary because the girl simply likes you and makes the moves for you. 

However, most of my best relationships, and consequently some of the mind-blowing sex I’ve had were the result of a bit of persistence on my part to make it work.

Since most of the girls I meet these days are during daytime (especially in the summer), usually all I end up with is a number that I need to work with to get her out for a more intimate date.

Before I lay down the rules, I want to stress my inner mentality when it comes to the chase.

  • I do not “next” a girl.  (In fact, I don’t “next” anyone anymore, but that’s another post.) I never take it personally if she’s been evasive or taking a while to respond to texts.  You can’t next a girl you haven’t slept with.  I don’t suddenly give up on her if I see unfavorable behavior, but I try to see it through until it reaches a point where I need to cut my losses and move on.  So, unlike many guys, I’m willing to invest a bit more into the chase if I feel the prospect (girl) is worth it.
  • I do not sit and analyze her SMS’s to predict my chances.  If she’s responding, it’s on. 
  • I remove my ego completely.  I view this process as nothing to do with me, but more of a timing/logistics issue that has to do mainly with her.

So, now that I’ve met the girl and have gotten her number the chase begins.  My objective now is to get her off the phone, and see her face-to-face as soon as possible.

  • Call or Text
    If the country/culture is very text-heavy, then I only stick to texts.  Here in Romania as well as the rest of Eastern Europe people typically text much more than call.
    The exception here is that if she never replies to your original text, then maybe after 3-4 hours pickup the phone and call her.  Her phone might not receive SMSs, she might not have enough carrier credit to respond to a text, etc.
  • The First Text
    I always give every girl I meet a particular nickname.  The Romanian girl I met the other day considered herself ‘non-typical Romanian’ simply because she had short hair, didn’t wear high heels, nor a dress.  My nickname for her was ‘my favorite non-typical Romanian girl’.  The French girl with whom I was hooking up in Brazil, my very first text to her was ‘ma petite cherie’ (something like ‘my baby’).  Another girl I met, Cassandra, kept saying how she always introduces herself by saying her name and appending ‘with 2 S’s’.  I refer to her as “Casssssandra” when I text her.

    Note #1: Don’t give nicknames if you’re unwilling to call her that face-to-face.  For instance, if during the first meeting, the vibe was very serious and there’s no way you could’ve called her by the nickname, don’t call her by nickname when you text her.  She’s going to think you’re trying too hard or just weird.  Your vibe when texting needs to absolutely match the vibe you’ve had when you first met her.

    Note #2: If the girl was very cute, dressed to the 9s, and very flirty when we first met, I sometimes ask her to send me a cute picture to my email with my first text.  Her sending me a sexy picture pretty much sets the tone for our interaction going forward.

  • The time span before she responds.
    I don’t care how long it took her to respond to the first text because I’ve found whether it’s 5 mins or 3 hrs makes absolutely no difference.  As she could be working, not hear the phone, be at a gym, etc.  The key is whether she replies by the evening and also if apologizes for not replying sooner. 
  • Her response
    Usually if the girl has a sense of humor, she’ll respond by giving me a nickname as well.  About 80-90% of the girls play along.  The non-typical Romanian called me a fake-brazilian, fake-mexican, fake-spanish guy because I’ve lived in all of those countries but it’s not my nationality.  The Cassssandra chick called me a ‘rebel without a cause’ because I joked that’s what my motto in life is when we met.  It’s a great sign that a girl is willing to play a long.
  • The frame
    Setting the frame when asking her out:  The frame I want to set right away when asking the girl out is that we won’t be just having a beer and talking about world events.  I don’t want her to think that it’ll be some kind of platonic, friend-only date.
  • The ask
    One way I like to ask if I could “kidnap” her for a few hours one weekend night for an “innocent” beer or two.  Girls love to be “kidnapped” by a stranger (even if they’ll never admit it).  If the girl is super flirty, I might add, “don’t worry I won’t try anything.”  but you have to make a judgment call based on the initial interaction and her SMS responses.  Also, remember that if her English is not fluent, she might miss the subtext behind the statement and completely misunderstand.
  • If she cancels
    Let’s say you’ve set up a Friday night date, but the girl cancels few hours before.  First you have to assess the situation: did she give a reason and/or present a counter offer?  If you’re in a low-flake country (i.e., you’re not in Colombia), then it’s quite possible she had a valid reason, and it’s worth following up at a later date.

    Let’s say she cancelled, by claiming she’s sick but asked if we can reschedule at a later date.  My typical reply would be “Ok, but you’ll have to make it up to me next time.  Get well soon.”  I achieve two things with such a response: I make sure that she knows that she’ll have to make it worthwhile next time, and two I don’t act like a dick even though she could be lying to me.

  • She counteroffers
    If she counteroffers, great, proceed as normal.  If she doesn’t, I wait at least 3-4 days to re-initiate contact, again with a witty comment with her nickname.
  • She hasn’t responded
    Let’s say it’s been a week or two since you last texted her but she hasn’t responded to your last text.  Now, this upcoming weekend there’s a cool party your friends are throwing, or a cool DJ playing at a club, or some other cool event.  What I would do is text her, ‘hey <nickname>, so and so DJ is playing at so and so club, you should come’  What I’m doing here is not inviting her directly, but making her an offer that she should check it out.  I hate passive offers like this, but if she’s been silent for a while, it’s an ideal offer.
  • She’s MIA
    If you get no response at this point, delete the number and move on.

So drop the ego, and keep pushing for a meet unless you get a definite ‘No’ or the girl simply stops replying to your texts.  If that happens, don’t call, don’t pass Go and just move on to the next girl.

Mastering persistence without crossing into desperation will give you a new arsenal in your ever expanding seduction toolkit.

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66 Things On Life, Men and Women, and America

Life

  • Rejection and success are imaginary terms that were created to quantify our lives, compare it to others, make us feel insecure, and ultimately sell us something to fix that.
  • It’s perfectly OK to be sad, lonely, and depressed.  Understanding the fact is a huge step closer to finding your inner self.
  • When unsure of something, always ask yourself "why" and the world will open up to you.  Just be ready to accept whatever the "answer" may be. 
  • Each time you get emotionally hurt is another step towards understanding your inner self.
  • Your biggest mistake is believing that the world works how you want it to work  
  • We always try to change a person into someone we want them to be.
  • There’s no true truth; for it is what we’ve been instilled by family, culture, media and state
  • There’s no risk, just very calculated bets that are inline with your convictions.
  • The ego is the most destructive thing in the universe.  It works tirelessly to derail you from complete enlightenment and Zen.
  • Listening is one of the most valuable skills you have.  Learn to master it.
  • The quicker you let go of your ego, the quicker everything else falls into place
  • Depression is a term that was created to sell us Prozac. 
  • Those 500 "friends" on Facebook that send you birthday greetings once a year are not your friends
  • What’s good for society may not be necessarily good for you.
  • What’s good for family may not be necessarily good for you
  • There’s no perfection.
  • Complaining is a symptom of your lack of understanding of how the world works.  Fix the root cause, and complaining will go away
  • If you’re not happy, seek change.
  • Dump your smartphone’s data plan.  You don’t need the Internet to follow you at all times.
  • Instead of having weak relationships with 500 "friends", cultivate 5 strong relationships with real friends.
  • Grass is not always greener on the other side.
  • Exchange your time and money for experiences instead of physical things.
  • The shortcut to happiness is removing emotions from decision making.
  • Put yourself on the line with calculated risks every now and then.  It’s the fastest way to learn about yourself.
  • Capitalism, Marxism, Leninism, socialism, liberalism, conservatism, neo-conservatism are a handful of a billion of ideologies in this world.  Learn what they really stand for, then pick one that benefits yourself.
  • Of all the money I’ve spent on things, travel has the highest ROI.
  • Never take anything personally.  There’s no such thing as a personal attack.
  • People are very egoistic.  To get what you want, you have see how your existence in their lives will make them happy first.
  • I’m happier, smarter, wiser and more confident now that anytime in my past, and I’d never trade for what I know now for my younger years.
  • Hold a grudge against someone with a very good reason.  Let go of the simple shit.
  • You can never, ever please everyone.  Pick your targets and battles with laser precision.
  • The most important thing are your convictions and beliefs.  Lose those and everything crumbles shortly after.

Men & Women:

  • There’s no soul mate.  There’s no infatuation.  There’s no love.  There’s just a biological need to mate with good genes.  Use that as your template for women, and you’ll never be disappointed.
  • A woman’s true currency is her youth and femininity.  Both of which are being devalued at an alarming rate in the West.
  • If you haven’t fucked her (preferably twice, thrice or more), you mean nothing to her and she should mean nothing to you.
  • "A quickest way to a man’s heart is through his stomach," Eastern European proverb.
  • Seduction is never scripted.  Sometimes it’s movie-worthy perfect: the perfect approach; the perfect flirting; the perfect kiss.  Other times it’s messy: too fast escalation, rejected kiss attempts, followed by eventual sex.  Both are better than wondering "what if" home alone on a Friday night.
  • There’s a big difference between persistence and desperation.  Learn the difference and pack an important arsenal in your toolbox.
  • Stay true to the bro code.  A good friendship with a guy is much more important than a random fuck with his chick.
  • “A man truly matures around the age of 40,” Eastern/Central European proverb.
  • Being hungry and horny get you rewarded more often than not.
  • Never be ashamed of escalating quickly in the interaction.  You’re sexual and she’s being weird for not reciprocating.
  • Hint as soon as possible that there’s a good chance you’ll be fucking her soon.
  • "The only thing that matters is that you’re doing something," from the Brazilian school of game on approaching, and escalating with women.
  • Drop the aloof bullshit when seducing non-American(ized) girls.
  • When you find yourself constantly thinking about a girl, make absolutely sure that she is spending even more time thinking about you.
  • There’s no universal game.
  • When trying to fuck an American(ized) girl, things follow a predictable set of right and wrong steps, with little room for error.  With non-Americans, there’s a lot of grey areas.
  • During seduction, a girl will give you a small window of opportunity to take charge and escalate.  Miss the window, and you’re finished.
  • Easy come, easy go.
  • There’s no perfect approach.
  • A typical conversation with an American(ized) girl is 50% sarcasm, 50% teasing, 0% authenticity, avoiding silent pauses like the plague.  A typical conversation with a non-American girl is 20% verbal seduction, 80% non-verbal seduction, treasuring silent pauses like gold.
  • To best way to keep a girl is to indirectly make her realize that your life continues as before, even with her in it.  Meanwhile, keep fucking her like it’s your last, every single time.
  • Pickup was invented in USA to counteract the evolution of a new species of women who no longer go by their emotions, but instead follow what the media tells them to do.
  • You can’t seduce American women because of their lack of emotional intelligence.
  • Woman’s natural state is when she’s not in control and is led by a strong man.
  • A man settles down when he finds a suitable mother for his children, and when he begins to focus on the accumulation of wealth and assets instead of accumulation of notches.
  • A 32 year old American girl who considers herself "picky" will never make you happy.
  • To fuck an American(ized) girl, tease her with complete abandon, ignore anything she’s telling you, and treat her like an abandoned dog in the poor neighborhood; to fuck a non-American girl, seduce her.
  • Never, ever listen to a woman for what she likes in a man, or wants out of a relationship, etc. 
  • Never, ever take relationship advice from a woman.


America:

  • America is the best place in the world to learn how to make money from nothing.  Once you have money and/or skills to make it, leave and never look back.
  • If I knew what I know now, I would’ve left America when I was 25 or so (instead of 30).
  • Regardless of what everyone says, the end of America is not near.  No one else in the world is innovating like America.  Brazil?  They’re learning how to sell their coffee. China? They’re busy copying America to make cheap shit that will be bought by Americans.  Russia?  They make 80% of earnings by selling oil.
  • Nothing is free in America.  To get the "American dream", you have to pay your dues first, namely by signing your life away to constant soulless work, and a 30-year mortgage.
  • Come to America with a plan.  Don’t come to America for inspiration or soul-searching.

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