by mavtraveler on August 4, 2010
America Is Great
I’m sure you’ve seen this before, or perhaps it has happened to you. A traveller goes abroad, spends time wondering in some third world country maybe in South America, or perhaps in South East Asia, promptly falls in love with the easy, unhurried living of the place. Then, he or she comes back home, proclaiming to how great life is over there, how nice and friendly are the people, how great the food is, etc.
That was me two months ago.
I couldn’t stop raving about Brazil. I told everyone how it’s much safer than US media makes it out to be. I told everyone how fresh the food is, a testimony to me being in best shape of my life despite feasting on tons of it. I told everyone how friendlier and happier the people are. I told everyone how I can totally see myself living there in a few years. I told, and told, and told into the oblivion. I sounded like I worked for the Brazilian Tourist Agency.
America’s lifestyle didn’t make sense. I couldn’t understand why people drive large cars, and have huge TVs in their apartments. They should be spending more time outside, with their friends, perhaps at the beach or something, I thought. I found the US pop music empty–empty of any meaning, substance, culture, as opposed to Samba which is full of history. I went out few times, but couldn’t connect with anyone; had absolutely nothing to talk about. I saw people walking around like clones: guys sporting the same hipsterish glasses, shirts and skinny jeans. Girls wearing the same flats as everyone else. I couldn’t wait to get back on the plane.
Fast forward two months, and I’m pretty much re-adjusted to my life in US. Although I plan to be on the road soon enough, I can’t help but to appreciate the life here as opposed to overseas. Sure, America is not perfect, but you could do a lot worse, believe me.
Here’s why I think America shines:
- American Dream:
In America, you can become anyone you want to be if you’re good at it, and regardless of your connections. Look at the success of immigrant founded/co-founded companies like Google, and Intel and more. While it also matters who you know than what you know, it’s definitely less so here than abroad.
- Everything is for sale:
I could walk around anywhere, and buy anything I like. Any building, any business; everything has a price. Everything has its accompanying records. Try doing that in the third world or even Europe, and you’ll quickly find out that some records are missing, or something is deemed unsellable, etc. Likewise I can get a loan from the bank with reasonable interest rate due to the fact that the bank knows my chance of default due to my FICO score. Not many places around the world are that sophisticated. In fact, you need cash to buy big things abroad.
- Entrepreneurship:
I can go on the Internet and form any kind of company in one or two days. Then I can enjoy benefits, such as expensing my expenses to reduce my taxable incoming. In the third world, this can take a very long time to do while you navigate the bureaucracy. I also have more access to VC funding and talent than anywhere else.
- Security:
I have real, tangible security here. I can walk streets knowing that if something happens to me there’s a good chance that person will be caught and persecuted. I can open a store without so much fear of someone walking in and asking ‘protection’ money as is commonly done in the third world.
- Electronics:
You wanna buy a MacBook in Brazil? Sure, but it’ll cost you 2-3x the price of it in US (in dollars). Same thing with a new LCD TV, or anything else that wasn’t manufactured in Brazil. Say goodbye to your favorite gadgets or ask someone who’s coming from US to carry them down for you.
- Huge, all-catch stores:
I can go to a large store like Costco and do all my shopping there, including food, clothes (if I’m on a budget) and electronics. Everything is competitively priced too.
- Corruption:
Sure, there’s corruption all over the world (and always will be), but at least there’s more accountability and transparency here than many other places in the world. America has free press and they love to uncover corruption no matter who small or large to boost their ratings.
- Technology Advancements:
Many things started in America. The light bulb, personal computer, Microsoft, the Internet, Google, Facebook Twitter, including ongoing investments in Biotech and solar energy. Some say America is losing her edge, but try to explain that in Silicon Valley which is continuing to hire and innovate.
- And many more, as you see where I’m going with this.
Travelling is great and eye-opening. It’s important to get out and see how the rest of the world lives in comparison to us. In addition to giving you another perspective, it also makes you aware of some things that perhaps were taken for granted. As the popular saying goes, “you never know what you have until you lose it.”
by mavtraveler on July 30, 2010
Wanna go out?
It’s generally easy for a Western male to date in lower income countries, especially in Latin America. Being a Westerner automatically associates you with money, and a chance for the girl to obtain a visa back to the richer country. It also draws in girls who might be tired of the macho-infested culture and are eager for a change. This is certainly true all over Latin America.
Except Brazil.
After spending more than a year in Rio, I thought I’d give some pointers to guys that are interested in going to Brazil and dating Brazilian women.
(Disclaimer: My experience is based on my stay in Rio de Janeiro — so if you’re staying elsewhere, your mileage may vary)
- The Rule
The universal rule is that Brazilian girls usually fall into two camps, who exclusively date Brazilian guys and those that have dated and are open to dating foreigners (gringos). This alone sets Brazil apart from the rest of Latin America. Signs that a girl is open to dating a gringo, she has lived/travel abroad, she speaks great English, she had/has gringo friends, she hangs out in places where gringos go, etc.
- Speak Portuguese.
This seems obvious, but it’s not. If you only speak English, you will most likely meet girls who speak English and have travelled/lived in US (or Europe) and hang out around gringos (see #1 above). On the other hand, if you speak Portuguese, you will meet all Brazilian girls, and it’ll be harder to filter which ones are open for dating a gringo. Knowing Portuguese is obviously a plus, but not as important as it seems at first.
- Gringo Factor
Unfortunately male gringos in Brazil have a negative reputation as prostitute seekers and exploiters of Brazil’s natural resources (i.e., women). This creates a double standard. The girls are especially sensitive to such stereotypes, and as a result they will take any negative “asshole-type” behavior very personally. Even a light tease that’s culturally acceptable anywhere else can result in backlash, while the same behavior from a Brazilian guy can be totally acceptable. This means in the initial encounter, refrain from any questionable teasing and keep things very friendly.
- Venue is important.
If you go places that charge $50 cover, then you would expect to meet girls who are interested in meeting well-off guys. However, if you go to street parties, and cheaper places, chances are the girls will be more down to earth. In Rio, Ipanema and Leblon have the most beautiful, but richer girls, while Lapa and Botafogo have more down to earth variety.
- Looks are important.
Rio is a beautiful city situated with mountainous landscapes and blessed with a gorgeous beach. Girls are beautiful as well, always dressed to the nines, refusing to leave the house without without high heels. They take care of themselves, and expect the same from guys. So remember to GTL (Gym, Tan, Laundry) before you go to Rio.
Care for a drink?
- Brazilian girls are direct
Unlike in US or Europe, girls here play much less games. When approaching a girl, the girl will know very quickly if you’re her type or not. If things are not moving forward within the first 10-15 minutes, it won’t go anywhere. Just politely eject and keep going.
- Be aggressive
If on the other hand, things are progressing nicely, slowly go for a kiss after fifteen or twenty minutes of conversation. A kiss doesn’t signify intimacy in Brazil, but kissing quickly is normal and is part of the mating ritual.
- Things move fast.
After you get the number, it’s OK to call the next day and schedule a date for the following or same evening. You do not need to wait 2-4 days like in US.
- Keep it simple.
I know in the West, dinner and movie is the norm. In Brazil, keep dates simple. Meet her at the beach, go for a drink at Devassa Bar in Ipanema. Go to a Hippie Fair in Ipanema on Sunday afternoons, or just grab a coconut juice on the beach. It doesn’t need to be expensive or complicated. The cheaper the better.
- Have fun.
Many guys get wrapped up in trying to attract the girl by impressing her. This wouldn’t work in Brazil because above all Brazilian culture is extremely chill, and people value a relaxed atmosphere over a serious or deep conversation. So don’t try too hard and just have a good time.